The Secret, for those uninitiated souls, started as a DVD. An associate of mine sent me a copy some 18 months ago, in the hope that I would find it appealing. I watched it in hope, but sadly I found nothing new. Since then it has spawned a book, t-shirts, gold-member clubs and a touring seminar (think Tony Robbins).

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In essence The Secret is about the difference between going away from pain, or towards pleasure. It’s a simple reframe in NLP terms where the internal representations of aims and objectives are changed from being a statement about what one does not want, in to what you do want. It seems like on over simplistic shift, but it does work. However, within The Secret it is presented as some sort of Cosmic Ordering catalogue, where you can simply ask for anything, and you’ll get it. It’s just not that simple!

If you were to reframe your desire not to be lonely, for example, then The Secret might recommend that you reframe so that you imagine married with the most attractive hollywood star you can think of. No matter how improbable, The Secret would sugest, your unconcious will start making changes in your life to make this ‘dream’ a reality. In so doing you are no longer representing your relationship status by how lonely you are (pain), but rather by how much closer you are to your dream (pleasure). Realistically this just is not going to happen, unless you are a hollywood star yourself, or have asperations to be. Would it not be better to deal with what the opposing force to “not being lonely” is. This will give you a much clearer objective. Maybe all you really want is to be around good friends, or to find that special someone, whoever that might be.

By narrowing your dreams and desires you are preparing yourself for failure. Broaden them, and you increase your potential for success. Think about any event in the past that you may have had to plan in advance. Did the event run the same way you visualised it would? Did it feel the same? better? worse? It’s never the same. Were you disappointed it wasn’t the same? Of course not.

I see many people who have followed The Secret, and they become greedy, egotistic, narrow-minded and overall have no shared reality with the rest of the planet. They believe they can have anything and everything they want or desire simply by thinking about it to the exclusion of everything else. They tend to become obsessed, and lack the ability to see the larger picture about their environment. After all why do you want money/ relationships/ success? To keep it for yourself? Would that make you ultimately happy?

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